Dear Andy:

You can stop trying to get her back. Proceed with a legal termination of the marriage. Parent your children best you can. Enjoy the simple things in life, your wife is not one of those simple (people)- simple would be someone you can trust, someone honest.

I hope you feel better soon. In this time of distress, remember your three children. They need a strong father.

I don’t know where you are going away to, for a few months. You will have to come back to the same situation, won’t you, after the 2-3 months? Maybe competent psychotherapy to deal with your feelings of betrayal and the new situations is a better idea?

anita