Dear bricklady:

You wrote in your last sentence: “I just don’t know if I wait for him to bring it up or if I should”- what about your therapist advice that you initiate nothing with him (the quotes in my last post to you)?

You wrote in your last post: “witnessing their (the children’s) pain hurts us. What parent wants to see their child hurting?”-

In “hurts US”- it is as if, in your own mind, you and the father are ONE, bricklady and Brickman, as if you are a couple, parents of these children. Not yet. You have rushed the process, from one point on, fast forwarded it.

anita