Dear Lea:

I re-read your original post and your reply to me. In your original post you wrote: “I came out of the 10 year relationship mentally exhausted and shattered.”- then you met your second husband. I think that there is important information in what you took with yo from that ten year intense relationship, something that is playing a big part in your current relationship and your current challenge: to stay or leave.

Therefore I ask, what happened in those ten years, in summary best you can, what mental troubles came up for him after marriage, what happened… and why did he initiate the divorce?

anita