Dear vanessa:

Please calm down best you can. I understand you wish you did things differently but what is done is done. You are a mother now and the well being of an innocent baby is dependent on you.

Please do what needs to be done for this baby- get professional psychotherapy to help you be calm, manage your distress, forgive yourself for wrong choices in the past, be good to yourself.

The father of your child has legal responsibilities for the baby- get the professional legal help in this regard.

Reach out to any self help groups for single mothers, reach out to any social service available to you. Do all that you can to heal yourself and take good care of yourself and of your baby.

You owe it to this baby, smiling at you with love. For your baby, you are the most important, the most needed, most wonderful person in the whole world- live up to how your baby sees you.

And please, do post anytime.

anita