Dear Jen:

Can you extend the lease and stay where you are currently living for a month or two after he moves out for his job? Or, if not possible, maybe you can rent a room for a month or two in the same city?

This way, you can buy some time to figure things out: you can continue your job, research the city he moved to, contact employers and so forth, and generally get used to the idea of your next residence.

If you are having a good relationship and want to spend the rest of your life with him, and so does he, use this time of instability as an opportunity to have a strong relationship anyway. Get closer to him, not farther away. Good employment is important, but so is a healthy, loving, strong relationship.

anita