Thank you Steve and Poppyxo.

I agree with you Steve – he has never really broken up with someone before (or broken up well/amicably) so I think this was just his way of dealing with it. I’m just now struggling with the total shock…I moved out here for him and now the entire life I have is shattered.

Poppyxo, I have not spoken to him save for one small email saying I was holding onto hope and some asking him to give me some time to process before we sort of logistical things. He sent back a very short, blunt and rude email just stating logistical things that need to be done ASAP. So it seems to me to be quite clear that he just is relieved to move on. It feels like the way he wrote me back signaled that I wasn’t going to get any better of an answer.

I don’t necessarily want/need closure, but I just wish he would know how horribly he handled this. Even if he doesn’t want to be in a relationship and needs to deal with his own issues, there’s no reason to punish me for it by ousting me so quickly and selling our furniture right away.