Dear Sarah Min:

What I would do, if I was you, best I understand your situation is to make a plan to move out (or him moving out) so the two of you don’t live together anymore (as well as plan to not sleep together at all once you live separately).

Until such is materialized, while you still live with him, I would arrange to sleep in a separate bed, in a separate room if possible (couch in a living room would do), and if there is only one room, then still in a separate bed/ mattress with a divider between the two of you.

He is currently not available for a relationship with you (other than sleeping together and being friends), and seems like he is emotionally involved with another woman. I would accept this reality, and proceed with my above two suggestions.

anita