Dear tiny lantern:

I am up to the challenge of answering your question: “What is going wrong?!?!” – the question that left therapists and a psychiatrist puzzled, the question not answered in the hundreds of articles and self help books that you read and still reading. But I need more information and it will take some back and forth communication.

1) You wrote that you looked for a relationship since you were 12- in what ways did you look for a relationship at that age? What thoughts, feelings and behaviors were involved in your looking for a relationship at that age?

2) You wrote that everyone in your family is happily married: really? Everyone? How about your parents’ marriage: did you witness nothing but a happy marriage between them?

anita