Let’s say you meet a man who is decent. Your Superego will work overtime to find the proofs that he is unloving, untrustworthy and should be rejected. The “proofs” can be any imperfections, the slightest contradictions in what he says… anything.

Yes very true. That’s why with the last guy I stayed a bit longer than I thought I should, because I was wondering if I was finding imperfections in him to run away from someone who truly loved me. It was hard for me adapt to someone that put my on a pedestal and said he loved me, but it didn’t help that there were some real red flags as well. But on other levels we really got along and we could have quite deep discussions. Anyway, essentially my body broke down (immune issues) because it was all too much and it was telling me it can’t do this at the moment.

I got very confused if I was “right in my decision” to not like him, or I was choosing to find fault in him because of my insecurities and issues. I think it was a bit of both. I think there were some real “red flags” but I also think it made my decision easy to say “see I was right, he’s not trustworthy!”.

Your Superego may keep you “Forever single”- unless…. ???

I’m not really sure to be honest? Unless, I learn to trust? Unless, I get rid of that “my mothers voice in my head?” Unless, I get rid of judgement?