Hi Kayla,

This feels slightly familiar to me, with my ex. So thank you for expressing what’s happening with you and your partner, because it made me realize I wasn’t going crazy. My ex would do the same thing, “want to do activities with me”, but I realised it really was always on his terms. In fact, I also now realise (after the fact) that we actually never did any of the activities I wanted to do, because it basically it didn’t suit him and yet I was always accommodating to his activities (this was my fault for not realising what was happening at the time). I wish I had been smart enough to realise what was happening (so lucky for you, you were able to see what clearly was happening and have tried to bring it up with your partner).

I would say it’s probably agree with others and let him go, but I guess if I could do a “do over” I would just really sit down with my ex and say “hey this is quite serious and this effecting me and how I feel about the relationship and we can’t really start working on this then I think it’s best we break-up”. I mean it sounds like you maybe at the point, so instead of just leaving, maybe give him one more chance and then at least you can say, you really tried and made it clear with what was going on in your mind.

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