Dear Kayla:

Congratulations! I am pleased to read that you made, what I believe to be, the right decision for your own well being.

It was a good choice on your part, to not “force him to admit he was being selfish”. If he did, sincerely look into himself and examine his behavior for being harmful to you, being willing to change his ways… why, that would have been unselfish. So he is consistent with whom he has been so far.

I believe you dodged the bullet on this one, and again, congratulations! This is an opportunity for you to learn how to deal with that core belief, to examine it more, to learn how it affects your day to day living, especially in relationships, and to not let you waste time and resources on getting along with people whose MO is like his. Be it work colleagues, family members and a future boyfriend.

Post again, anytime. And you are very welcome.

anita