Hi Craig and thank you for your insights! It made a lot of sense.

I hope that you do not assume that everyone needs psychotherapy? 😉 I am the kind of person, who does not have much baggage – maybe it is because of a stable childhood with loving parents & a deep interest in personal growth and meaningful life for the last 30 years.

I got involved with online dating some years ago. There were several very promising men with the same kind of values and interests. (To put it briefly: I want to grow until I die to become the most wholehearted and wise person within my potential.) The problem was that irl there was no chemistry…There was good chemistry with some younger men and I”ve had some sexually fulfilling “relationships” with them. (I have not had such for two years because of the lack of depth. It is a challenge: is it better to be without sex at all? Hmmm…)

I used to meditate “seriously” (following celibacy etc.) for several years and do not continue with that for several reasons but really enjoy mindfulness and my volunteer work gives a lot of meaning. (Of course I am thankful for my job as well.) It is just that many things in life would have so much more meaning if there was the one and only to share it with.