Dear littlered:

Am I understanding correctly?: an obstacle appears in your life. Following that, a certain pattern, or mental habit, is activated: certain thoughts take place, based on certain core beliefs, causing you anxiety that depletes you from the energy that you need to deal with the obstacle. As a result you don’t deal with it and instead you look for another person that will deal with it for you.

This pattern, or mental habit, increases your anxiety because you feel more and more incapable of dealing with obstacles and you fear that the people who you hope will deal with the obstacles for you will harm you somehow, take advantage of you, perhaps.

If I am correct in my understanding, can you share when and in what circumstances this pattern start, originate?

anita