Dear sunshinegirl80:

I like your idea very much and better do it sooner than later. I would send him a short enough, simple, direct message, casual tone. You can ask him for his thoughts/ feelings, whatever you choose. Then he can answer you in an email or in person. It is better than if he is unprepared and surprised, in person.

Sending him an online message gives him the opportunity to think before answering, then to type an answer and edit it. He can do so in his home, comfortable. Or if he doesn’t feel comfortable online, he can choose to talk to you in person.

anita