Dear sam:

You are moving soon. I hope you meet a good man there and start a relationship. First step would be to get to know a man before getting emotionally attached, while you are still objective-enough. You can prepare ahead of time, thinking and listing your requirements of a man, from most important-and-non-negotiable to preferable-but-not-necessary. You can “interview” men for the … position of boyfriend using that list.

You can prepare questions to ask a potential boyfriend, questions that are likely to invite honest answers while not appearing like you are an employer interviewing an employee (or the police interrogating a criminal suspect…)

You can study (there are books and online sources) interpersonal skills, such as the simple skill of listening to everything he says, not missing anything,  instead of no longer listening and thinking instead of what you will say to him.

There is so much to learn and practice. Exciting!

anita