Dear Mangtinez:

I hope you succeed in your efforts to have healthy biological children and that your cats are healthy too.

You wrote that you feel like your “anxious, negative, worry-wort mind has brought these tragedies upon (you)”- no, I don’t think your thoughts and feelings caused your husband’s and brother in law’s Azoospermia, nor your late cat’s or current cat’s health troubles. Those things happened regardless of your thoughts and feelings.

Our anxieties, worries, these don’t help any, never do. And they can hurt because when we distressed, we pay less attention to such things as driving and otherwise, and so, we are more likely to have accidents. Calm yourself best you can, pay attention, and I hope you feel way better soon enough.

anita