Dear Littlered:

You are welcome. Before my thoughts about the law of attraction:

You wrote in your original post: “I was always punished or made to feel guilty if I asked for something.”- you were taught, and you therefore learned, that if you ask for something, pain (punishment) will follow. This is why you are afraid asking for something, be it a tangible or a non-tangible thing. You are afraid of the punishment to follow.

Your internal dialogue, described in your latest post, is about you trying to avoid the punishment to come: hurry up and return the item (before she needs it and gets angry and punish me)! etc.

Regarding my thoughts about the law of attraction: if you pretend, act as if you are confident, let’s say, in a party- that is likely to attract attention to you, people wanting to enjoy and benefit from your company. So there is likely to be quick success. Unfortunately, a person cannot pretend for long, so the success is temporary. In business, a salesperson can master pretense, and can be successful because he is prepared to pretend at limited times, while working, and can be himself/ herself most of the time when not working.

Pretending/ acting as if (which is what the law of attraction is about)is a tool that if used with other tools can definitely be beneficial, as part of the process I mentioned, in moderation, in some contexts.

You wrote: “I feel I must start releasing this feeling of unworthiness/unable to receive and other related things to allow good in my life.” – it is a good intent, a goal, to release a core belief (involving the feelings about being unworthy)- but it cannot be done instantly or magically, as the law of attraction implies to many. Releasing a core belief is a long, gradual process of learning the new to replace the old.

anita