Dear X:

If the protagonists in your childhood readings were often orphans, then when you identified with them, it doesn’t indicate, necessarily, that you felt like an orphan. It may mean that you identified with aspects of their situation, struggles, victories and what not, that have nothing to do with them being orphans.

But if this is the case, why did you bring this up? Which is my point: too many details hurt effective communication. Excess of details, spilling every thought that crosses your mind with little to no discernment, are in your way of communicating effectively to others.

The title of your thread is “Need Help Understanding Why”- my point in my last post to you is that understanding takes not only logic, but emotion. Your logical understanding has power (outside academic pursuits) only if there is emotion behind it.

Your last line is: “this is all really, really helpful!!!”- how has our communication on this thread, so far, being helpful to you?

anita