Dear jon:

She too is lacking in the communication department, leaving you guessing, wondering what she is thinking and feeling and what are her motivations. If she told you, you wouldn’t have to guess.

If indeed, the two of you communicated well in the beginning, then stopped communicating well, you keeping communication very superficial (ex. “hello, was your day?” ) and she, not responding to your messages, maybe it is time for you to reach out to the deeper communication you once had and ask her the questions that are on your mind? After all, she is the only one having the answers to her own thoughts, feelings and motivations.

Regarding your anxiety, you wrote that you have no idea why you felt it during the online romantic communication with her. Would you like to look into why?

If you do, you may benefit from it, be able to explain it to her (in the same message with the questions to her, perhaps), and learn what to do when you feel anxious again in the context of a possible relationship.

anita