Dear Bradley:

You wrote: “over night she decided to confuse me, manipulate me and refused to listen to my point of view..” and in your last post, you wrote: “I think people have failed to see the point of how she has treated me.”

So I went back and carefully read all that you posted so far. This is my understanding of what possibly happened: from the beginning of your three months relationship she enjoyed your company, your attention, your involvement in her life. She was not interested in you as a boyfriend from early on, but she didn’t want to lose the benefits she enjoyed from your involvement in her life, so she didn’t tell you the truth. She told you that she was unsure whether the two of you were suited as boyfriend/girlfriend even though she felt quite sure that you were not suited.

When you shared with her that you did have feelings for her congruent with a boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship, she ignored your sharing because she didn’t want to tell you her truth (for fear of losing the benefits she enjoyed).

And so, you are correct: she did manipulate you. She was dishonest with you. Unfortunately this is a common type manipulation women use: not wanting to lose the benefits of a man’s involvement in their lives, they hide the truth of their romantic disinterest in vague language (“unsure”) and such.

You mentioned having had a tough childhood and suffering from mild autism. You feel that you, maybe more than other people, need simple and clear communication from others, am I correct?

Let me know your thoughts and feelings about what I posted here and we can go on from there (I have ideas)

anita