Anita, its escalated in a way i didnt imagine. He has told me that he put a harrassment order on me with the police ( i dont know if its true). I havent received anything but he has sent a message threatening me that he is going to contact my parents and a put a lawsuit against me.

This kind of threatening behaviour has actually happened before..i didnt take it seriously because i just couldnt believe someone who loved me would do it but i am realising now, hes got some mental problems, he doesnt know what to do with emotions and has no empathy at all for the pain of others. I have to stop dreaming because he is getting aggressive.

He once kicked me out of his house when we had an argument while i was cooking, early on in our relationship. i was cutting up vegetables and he was goading me, saying nasty things. I was crying but that made him much worse, it always did. but i think you can guess by now, he likes to be cruel. much more than any boyfriend i ever had.  He told me that i had a knife in my hand and i was threatening him, i never did..he was threatening me with the same issue. He said he would call the police if i didnt leave..Instead he called my parents and they told me later that he said some extremely erratic and abnormal things about me, very strange things. They told him then and there that this wasnt the kind of thing you called the police about, that is was a matter of discussing it between the two of us. He couldnt seem to handle that, he didnt understand.  They took me back to their place. We lived apart after that, i had gotten back with him because by then i loved him so much i guess i thought it was a blip.  My parents recently said they wished i had just moved on from that point. But i loved him too much. It was stupid, i thought there was a way round his behaviour. i see now, the new woman is probably thinking the same thing!

At this point..i dont want to see him again. He says he has used the texts i sent as evidence. I can’t actually believe this is happening..he is frightening. I guess i had hoped he would have some mercy on me..recognise that i was saying those things out of despair..but instead he reacted this way.

My work is based in his area. He moved about half an hour away to be nearer to me..at least thats what he said 6 months ago.  he immediately dumped me as soon as he got here. Im scared now that my only income will be affected by his extreme behaviour. I sent a lot of texts to him…it was wrong i was emotional…. i thought it would be cathartic…i instead received the brunt of his anger.

I had contacted his son previously to say goodbye, his son is adult and replied just fine, i was in touch with his father in law too..he didnt ignore me either. But then i went to see his gf at his house. He is using this as evidence of harrassment. I only wanted to know the truth, and i finally got if from her.. he cheated on us both. He definitely lied. she seemed to want to stay despite the fact but i think this truth must have angered him more than i realised. He wanted control over us both. He didnt like that i had gone on my own and found out the truth. Im guessing this is typical narcissist behaviour.

I am lucky to have friends to help me, and they know the police. I am definitely not going to contact him, or go near him. but it is very upsetting that he has taken this stance when i live and work here, he can live and work anywhere he wants because  he has money. I am the one struggling to survive. I feel he wants to destroy me?