Dear Poppyxo:

Deep conversations is excellent. Don’t forget the different contexts part of getting to know him. Two months is a short time and so, I believe you are on the right track. A year into the relationship you will probably get the different contexts part covered: for example, how does he interact with his family, how does he interact with you when his family is present; same with his friends, co-workers, strangers.

Also, how does he deal with anger: his own? Yours? Does he withdraw? Becomes aggressive? passive-aggressive?

All this takes time, so take it…

anita