Dear HelloFriend:

You are welcome. Unfortunately, I see trouble for your children coming from two sources:

1) “I rarely show aggression towards my children”- muster all your patience, all your strength and show them no aggression at all. It is natural to get angry, but control the expressions of your anger. Be firm when need to, but assertive-firm, not aggressive.

2) And more so, “I’m in a marriage with someone who also is emotionally abusive …my husband is emotionally aggressive”- with you in the presence of your kids/ with the kids directly- that is a big problem, way more than your concern about not being attentive enough to your children. They need an aggression-free home.

Best you can do, is provide them with a zero aggression home, whatever it takes.

anita