Dear Savannah:

You asked if you are selfish. To be selfish means to disregard others, to not be considerate of others.

To take care of yourself- that is not selfish. To be primarily concerned with your own well-being- that is not selfish.

And so, there is no indication in your share above that you are being selfish. It is your valid responsibility to take care of yourself so that you are well.

If his mother is terminally ill, what is her medical prognosis? If she has little time left, a lot about your life will change: you might travel with your boyfriend as you planned before and figure out where to live. And so, her prognosis is very important in making an informed choice: to leave or stay, isn’t it?

anita