Dear Marge:

It reads to me like a bad idea to get back together with him because of “what if?” and your emotional attachment. But if you are invested in what-if-he-really-changed, and you decide to find out, better check if he has changed from the position of a non-girlfriend. At the least, don’t put yourself back into a girlfriend role with him.

Meet him for coffee, in a coffee house, for conversations, over time, months… converse. Evaluate whether he changed in a few months, and take it from there at that time, a few months from now… perhaps December of this year…

anita