Dear Marge:

You are welcome. Don’t be in a rush to forgive him, is my recommendation. When a person is harmful to you, the anger toward them has a purpose: to protect you, to motivate you to move away from a source of harm. When you are protected (no  longer in contact with him, nor inclined to be.. then forgive him)

If you are unable to keep your distance, as it reads to me, that is, to meet him for coffee and keep your distance otherwise, better work in the therapy you mentioned on staying away from him.

Emotional attachment, like the one you have for him, is what keeps … millions of people world wide in bad relationships. You can respect the force, the power of the attachment, and learn how to make the right choices for you nonetheless.

anita