Hi Thomas,

I remember your earlier postings,  your struggles, and you working on a path to healing.

I have no idea what your ex is up to. I don’t think it matters, and it may be a waste of your energy to agonize about why she does what she does.  If I’m hearing you accurately, her behaviors are triggering a lot of upset in you. Unless she absolutely is done with her recent fling, and reliably connects with you without this hot and cold nonsense, I’d suggest that you discontinue contact with her. You could even say that to her, but beware that for a short while, she’d behave wonderfully, just enough to pull you in again.

I’m not saying that I think it’s impossible for you and she to have a healthy relationship, but I do think that what’s happening now is just teasing you.