Dear Thomas:

When you think of your ex, do you believe, based on your overall experience with her, that she is indeed “hot and cold”, that is, impulsive, unpredictable, unreliable?

If so, this is who she is and has been and you can reasonably expect the same to continue. She will fly to see you, have close, passionate time together, fly back to her home… and maybe have a relationship with the same man or a new one, cutting down on communication with you to the bare minimum..

Following which, maybe, she will impulsively break up with the other man, rekindle the communication with you… and here we go again.

I am suggesting a possibility for your consideration based on your knowing of her. What do you think of it?

anita