Dear Marge:

You can make your posts as long as you want them to be- I can always take a break from a post and return to it later.

He reads like a troubled man and that is unfortunate. It is also unfortunate that you are “trapped into this for too long”-

Better severe ties. End all contact. I don’t see how a relationship with him can possibly work for your benefit. And it is not working for his benefit either. He may feel better at times, but overall, he remains as troubled as he has been for so long.

Your attachment to him is strong, it is an emotional attachment. Similar to separating from any object of attachment, from food (overeating), alcohol, drugs, clothes (over-shopping), it is not easy but doable. Many people have done it, separate from the object of their attachment, and so can you.

anita