This is a question I have been asking myself lately too. I have had a constant battle with quitting smoking, quitting starting again quitting.  I became aware of the thought that I was ignoring that when I was feeling down I had a hidden thought that I didn’t care enough about myself to quit smoking.  I’ve made it a week without a cigarette this time and when I think I want one I focus on thoughts of my health and how I need to do this for myself. I also battle with the thought that I have to be highly productive all the time and for the first time in my adult life have found myself with a  Job that doesn’t require me to work long hours. I’m allowing myself to take more time to do things for me. I still fight the thought of feeling that I should be working but then have to tell myself it’s OK to take time for me .  To read a book, to go for a walk to garden, to go to a festival.