Dear Isabella:

I agree with Coconut, you see he may or may not come back but as for right now the reality is that he isn’t coming back. So would holding onto this hope change anything right now? Would it improve the situation that you’re in right now? I think the answer is no. The best thing you can do is like Coconut said cutting off contact. I must admit that it will be extremely hard and my heart goes out to you but this is the best way. You may experience feelings of regret and wonder if he would’ve came back already if you didn’t stop talking to him but would the relationship really be the same & last if he came back? and do you want to be with someone that has left you once? If he did it once he could do it twice and you may live in fear of losing him again which wouldn’t be a very healthy relationship.

Let him come back on his own.

Once you cut off all contact and moved on you’ll either realize that you don’t need him anymore or he may return upon realization that he lost such a precious woman and once the opportunity arises you could choose to let him back into your life or not, based on where you stand in life then. But as for right now that opportunity isn’t there, so please heal yourself (-: people keep changing he may change again but you are human too and are capable of changing too!

Like I said, let him come back on his own, don’t stay friends with him just to hold onto a certain connection hoping that it’ll grow to more again. If it was meant to be he’ll crawl back with or without friendship. (I would go for without friendship as you would hurt yourself less and nothing would change the him that he is now.)

Stay strong!

Liz