Dear Kaylon:

You are welcome. I have more input: It is a good practice to keep one’s word, so when you told your friend that you will be in her party, you should have kept your word. But there are understandable exceptions to every rule (including this very rule). You didn’t foresee your boyfriend’s visit, him getting ill. In combination with the reality of zero return on investment being at the party (not having a good time yourself and being of no meaningful help to her), you made the right choice. I hope you no longer feel badly about having made the right choice.

Your friend herself doesn’t keep her word every time, and not necessarily when the exception is understandable. She is very upset with you, for your choice. It would be helpful if she looks at her choices, where she broke her word- that can make her feel empathy for you.

anita