Dear Cloud:

By the way, Wikipedia has a very long entry on Asexual, which led me to google The Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), reads very informative to me. Regarding your ex friend: she was selfish, not caring for your well-being, not being honest with you; disrespected your need for physical space, flirted with you when that was not your interest.

Back to AVEN, it reads there under “Relationships”: “Some asexual people are happier on their own… Other asexual people have a desire to form more intimate romantic relationships, and will date and seek long-term partnerships… Sexual or nonsexual, all relationships are made up of the same basic stuff. Communication, closeness, fun, humor, excitement and trust all happen just as much in sexual relationships as in nonsexual ones.”-

The above mentions the important of Trust and (honest) Communication- these have been missing or inadequate in your relationship with your ex friend. And seems like these are present in your so far long distance communication with your new friend.

anita