Dear Rox:

Clearly, he was too fast to declare that you are the love of his life. He should have taken his time before declaring these things and before promising to always fight for you. I hope he learned his lesson and not repeat such premature declarations and promises.

These gave you a false sense of security with him and bring about your disappointment, understandably.

This is not only an opportunity for him to learn, it is also an opportunity for you to examine and change your behavior in the context of a relationship, the behavior of overreacting, as you call it, and starting fights. Starting fights is a way to kill love and end potentially healthy and loving relationships.

Do you have insight into what motivated you to overreact and start fights in this four month relationship?

anita