Dear Scott:

You wrote: “Inam able to recognize these thoughts, I need help with what I should do or how I can break this painful cycle”-

insight into the origin of this relationship anxiety will be helpful as well as recognizing and observing your thoughts and feelings, which you are already doing. This relationship anxiety started, most likely, in your first, most powerful relationship, the one with a parent or parents.

When a child feels unsafe in relationship with a parent, that fear remains as one becomes an adult. It doesn’t go away with age. It needs to be seen and healed, over time and work. The work starts with the recognizing and observing your thoughts and feelings, and then there is more work).

Would you like to share about the origin of this anxiety?

anita