Hi – I have just read this tread and altho the poster is a 20 year old male, I totally am going thru the same thing and I am a 55 year old woman.  We are not “long distance” per se, but used to work together and now see each other maybe once or twice a week.  He is going through a divorce and moved into his own place 2 months ago.  Also left this job and has a new one (one month ago) so yes, he has a lot going on — not to mention two teenage daughters who are not easy and at times really struggle with the marital breakup.

I have started seeing a therapist and was sent an article from this site that talked about attachment theories … I saw myself very clearly.  The problem for me – Scott and Anita – is not understanding where my anxiety comes from because I do.  I need to learn how to embrace my imperfections, get vulnerable and be able to calm myself when anxiety hits.  The article offered no “solutions” but to cry it all out and hope to manage it …

Ugh – it’s awful to feel this anxiety — for reasons real or imagined —