Dear Anita,

I’m beginning to realize that my anxiety isn’t exactly all my fault. It is the result of my overthinking from the confusion I’m getting from my girlfriend. She seems to be in a “mood” a lot of the time where she claims to be annoyed. I feel like she is very childish and immature and uses this “annoyed” state to take advantage of my kind heart. I have been lenient and have reached out to her to help and alleviate her problems but I feel like it’s being used against me. I feel like a parent figure to her in a sense. I can definitely feel a back and forth push/push between us and our needs. Whenever I try to talk to her in a serious way, she says it won’t help and doesn’t really believe her actions or moods are a big deal. But if something is becoming constant and taking over, it is most definitely a big deal. Relationships need communication and understanding. When we’re together, everything is fine and she is very loving, almost in a “baby” way. But apart, she becomes distant and “annoyed” as she calls it.