Dear None:

I hope you find a way to sleep more, rest better.

Regarding “one of my colleagues wanted to know too much information from my personal life, got some info and started humiliating me”- I wonder how he got that information. If you gave it to him just because he asked for it, see to it next time to not do so. Learn from this experience: that a person may ask you for personal information for the purpose of using it against you.

When you were treated disrespectfully at work, best for you to assert yourself, stand up for yourself, against put downs and humiliations. If you gave me an example of a put down and the circumstance of it, I could suggest a possible way for you to assert yourself.

Next, I understand, you quit the job. You wrote: “I promised to myself that I will get there after some time and have a conversation with the boss about why I quit it, yet I feel that I won’t keep my nerves and will start screaming and swearing the one that put me down…” The key is to assert yourself when you are mistreated, quickly and appropriately, so that the anger does not build up to a point of exploding (screaming and swearing).

If you do have a talk with the boss, it will be an opportunity for you to be assertive and in control of your anger. Both. You can practice first, in front of the mirror, or here, practicing what you will say to the boss (tone, facial expressions, body posture included in the practice, in front of the mirror).

You wrote: “I have been quiet till now and I wonder if these people deserve to be talked to and given reasons why I quit and don’t wanna see them anymore”- the motivation of talking to your boss would be for you to practice being assertive and in control of the expressions of your anger. If you successfully execute these two things, your confidence will improve (and over time, so will your depression, with such an ongoing practice).

You wrote: “I could have a talk with my mum or my sister, but the second one is already making fun out of me just like my horrible colleagues”- another opportunity for you to practice being assertive, with your sister. And do not give her personal information that she is likely to use against you!

Post again, anytime.

anita