Dear None:

Regarding the offensive, abusive ex co-worker, a woman twice your age: reads to me suspect that she asked you if you were in a serious relationship. And then state to others that you are at work to find a boyfriend. Maybe she was romantically interested in one of the male co workers and was worried that he will be attracted to you and that the two of you will have a relationship.

Or maybe she is married and her husband cheated on her with a young woman, half her age, and she projected her anger into you and proceeded to bully you so to cause you to quit or to get fired.

This is very unfortunate and if I was in your place at the time it all happened, it would be very difficult for me to deal with and maybe an impossibility to resolve, because your boss was okay with this woman’s bullying you.

Regarding you wondering what information you should share with your sister who makes fun of you and puts you down- I say, share nothing with her and don’t interact with, unless necessary and limited to the extent that is necessary. If you give me and example or two of what she says and does that is making fun of you or otherwise putting you down, I may have suggestion as to how to assert yourself with her.

You feel very strongly about not going into that office again… so don’t. I am sorry your dream about this job turned into a nightmare. I hope you recover from that experience, that you feel better soon and that people treat you respectfully, as you well deserve.

anita