Dear H:

You never held hands with a girl/ woman. You have no friends. You suffer from extreme anxiety (your words) when it comes to the prospect of having a relationship. You say to yourself “extremely hateful things… I am not a man…(I am) not worthy of love.. I am ugly and terrible.”

You asked: “How do I love myself. How can I feel secure?”

Not by reading articles alone, not by solving this problem by intelligence alone- it cannot be done. The answers are in your emotions, in your “Emotional Mind”. Your intelligence, logic is required to access and understand your heart, but your heart, or your “Emotional Mind” is necessary, in the quest for answers and a relationship. It is not optional.

I believe I remember your previous thread. We communicated there. How do you think you can access your heart, your “Emotional Mind”?

anita