When it comes to giving silent treatment as a punishment, I wonder if they are actually aware of the fact that they are punishing people.

I discussed this with him many times in the past that I felt his silent was a punishment for me. He said that he wasn’t trying to punish me but needed some time to clear his head. I used to beg him to come back when he ignored me, telling him that I couldn’t live without him and perhaps my begging was the fuel that kept his silent going.

My last email to him

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What I ultimately want is finding peace and happiness within, then being able to make people I care about, including you, happy. I did not and do not want to break up.

I know I made a lot of mistakes in our relationship. I have been using sources to reflect/practice myself and feeling really calm and peaceful already. I would like to share my improvements with you, if possible.

I still care about you a lot and do not want to see you suffer, not at all. I want you to be happy, too! My heart is still with you.

Nevertheless, please take good care of yourself and slow down a bit if you are too stressed out. “YOU” are the most important asset. Without you, those success and wealth will be pointless. There are a lot of people who truly care about and love you, including me.

If you still want to visit me, you will be more than welcome!

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I got tired of begging him and crying. He’s a workaholic and doesn’t have many friends. All I wanted to do was to send him some positive energy and hope this helps him realize that blaming or punishing each other is not a solution to a better relationship. I also feel I have done the most part on my end. The rest will be his.