Dear Alexa Stewart:

Pros for the move to Pennsylvania: a larger apartment, probably a better paying job, less drugs/ needles on the streets, less or no shootings, your daughter needs your help.

Cons for the move: can’t take your cat, you are attached to where you live, New Jersey. The familiarity of the place is comforting. The thought of moving causes you anxiety. A lesser quality bakery.

My input: if you will be anxious and uncomfortable in Pennsylvania as you are now considering the move, you will not be very helpful to your daughter. She will not be pleased, I hope, to see you unhappy. She may even wish you remained in NJ so to not see you anxious and unhappy. And you may choose to reverse the move, which will be a lot of unnecessary time and resources spent.

If you are content in a smaller apartment, then a larger one (which may feel even larger without your beloved cat), may not be a pro, a benefit. Same with the money you earn.

I hope you post again.

anita