Hi Anita. Thanks for your message.

No, AS is not involved with anyone. He had a crush on a female friend who led him on, then started dating another guy. That’s over. He said he was attracted and confused between two other female friends. One of them he invited her over for a date but nothing happened. He complained to me “I didn’t know how to break the physical barrier” to be more than friends. That’s as far as I know about his involvements.

He mainly suggests that I didn’t want to be with him because he is fat and because of that he has poor self confidence (He was hurt it reflected in my choice in new partners who are fit). I tried to clear up his misunderstanding. But it’s his personal insecurity. And he’s afraid of my mum (she didn’t want us to be together at the time), and pointed out that we don’t have common interests, i.e. he loves doing nothing and watching movies endlessly, isn’t interested in music and I’m vice versa. He didn’t have one strong clear reason like “I don’t love you anymore,  I don’t want to be with you”. I know I can’t expect closure from him. He is this kind of guy, who even when girls he liked rejected him he made an effort to keep them in his life as “friends”.

AM