Dear Sarah:

It is my understanding that the issue is your anxiety, that it originated before you ever met your boyfriend, and so it is not caused by any fault in your boyfriend or in the relationship. Best place for you to work on this issue is in quality psychotherapy. If such is available to you, better take advantage of it.

I don’t know if it is possible for your boyfriend to help you with this. It may cause him anxiety to know about your struggles with loving-or-not-loving him. Did you and are you considering sharing this with him?

anita