Dear Katie:

When he told you that you didn’t really (love him), after you told him that you did, my first interpretation to it was that he was saying something like: you wouldn’t love me if you knew me. I am not worthy of your love, of anyone’s love. How we interpret things has to do with what we already believe. And so, your interpretation might have been wrong. Maybe you didn’t even consider that it could be wrong and so you didn’t ask him what he meant by it.

Our pre-existing core beliefs which are attached to anxiety influence a lot of our reasoning. Soon I will be away from the computer for hours. Would like to continue to communicate later.

anita