Dear Lauren:

He “assured (you) that although he did not feel that he was capable of fully returning my support at the time, he did greatly appreciate and value” your friendship- I am thinking it was a one way friendship where he needed help and you helped him. He wasn’t capable of returning your support- and I assume you didn’t ask him for support (?)- meaning it wasn’t a two way friendship.

It reads to me that he wasn’t satisfied with your answer to his question about developing feelings for him. Your answer to him reads reasonable to me, but I am not him, of course.

You wrote that you are struggling with how to get over this loss of friendship. I think it would help if you understood the nature of the friendship you lost, that is, what in fact you lost. Maybe if you ask him a few questions, for that purpose, it would help you. I do hope you feel better soon.

anita