Jeff,

One more idea that helps me somewhat. I may want to talk to somebody, and I would imagine talking or texting or emailing him or her. And if I already know by experience how s/he lets the conversation die, and it is clear that there is only me trying to tango, not both of us, it is so easy to imagine how this yet another conversation would go and end. If the other doesn’t see a life or a future with you or doesn’t want to have anything in common with you for that matter, there is nothing to talk about. My questions met with one-word answers out of sheer politeness and no questions in return is not a conversation or a dialogue.

Maybe even going as far as imagining that person gone forever (dead) and grieving over the loss in your mind might be of help, too.

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