Hello Anita

thank you very much for sharing your thoughts. Looking back now I do agree with you that the email was manipulative and was trying to make me at fault that I should take the whole responsibility for our breakup. And I DID! I told him and reassured him several times that I was determined to get better and make changes for our relationship. He never responds to any of my “getting back together”, nor “is it really over?” type of messages.

However, I do not understand why he had to do this – to guilt trip me. All I was asking was just a clear answer and clean cut so we could both have closure to move on in separate ways.

I feel he keeps giving me mixed signals to lead me on while he is trying to figure out what he should do next/before he is fully recovered from the breakup. If that’s the case, he’s really selfish.

Everything was great the day before we broke up. We had a really nice videochat for two hours straight. We talked about so many random things, laughed so much. A week before we became separate, he was still telling me almost everyday that he loved me so much, reassuring me that we would survived the long distance… I just don’t understand.. if he really loved me as he said, how can he lead me on like this? Maybe deep inside he is upset for all the pain I have caused him? Maybe he doesn’t want to be the bad guy? Maybe he’s too coward to take the responsibility? I don’t know…

• This reply was modified 7 years, 4 months ago by Connie.