Dear Connie:

Very reasonable possibilities in your last three lines. I am thinking anger is a very reasonable explanation- his emails and the silence-in-between (indeed a silent treatment) read like passive-aggressive behavior. Trying to indeed punish you, cause you distress by guilt tripping you on one hand, and responding with silence to your many efforts to reach out to him. If this is the case, his anger does not come from “all the pain (you) have caused him”, it must have been there from before you being in his life.

It also reads reasonable to me that he doesn’t want to be the bad guy, that he is presenting the image of a kind, good guy, hiding the part of him that is angry, resentful, maybe even hateful.

anita