Dear Shell:

I am thinking he is unhappy too: for one, people who are happy do not pick up fights for two years, as you wrote that he does. Anger, not happiness, motivates people to start fights again and again.

And since he is angry at you, repeatedly, he probably wishes too, like you, that he didn’t have to have contact with you, if it wasn’t for sharing kids with you. And that makes him unhappy. Like you.

I wish you were as happy as can be; I wish he was as happy as he can be- that would be best for your children.

Is there a way for you to improve your situation/ state of mind?

anita